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Weight loss Takes Focus

Have you ever looked at someone’s achievements and thought, “why can’t I have that”, or “they’re so lucky”, or “they have it so easy”. I don’t usually promote comparing yourself to other people, and I’m still not for it, but we do it, and we do it often.

However, do you realize that this is actually a form of judgement, and did it ever occur to you that maybe you can’t get there because you just simply haven't put in work that's required?

Your focus was elsewhere while this person you want to be like was completely goal orientated, working hard at the things they’ve achieved every single day. As humans we are so quick to play victim and feel sorry for ourselves, and wish for the things we want, but when it comes to working for those things 80% of us tap out and blame things like genetics or the things going on around us for our lack of effort…

Ponder on that for just a moment.

When it came to my transformation, my entire life changed. I gave up a lot and lost a lot, and I don’t mean the weight.

My entire life changed after my transformation. I heard statements like “I miss my fat friend” or “I need a person who can actually eat”. All because I couldn’t stomach the entire portion sitting in front of me. I was now receiving judgment for wanting better health conditions for myself. I stopped getting invited to events because of my goals.

It was so hard to realize that not everyone around me wanted the best for me, it was so hard to walk away from a life I had always known and LOVED, I had to accept that if this was the body I wanted, then things needed to change and sacrifices needed to be made. I looked at women in the gym that I aspired to. I saw them there every day, not once a month and also not once a week. So what did I do? I got my butt in that gym every day. Instead of looking at them, wishing that I had their body, I worked for that body.

And yes it was harder for me, I had so much work to do and I hated physical exercise, but I made a decision for myself, and I worked on that decision every day. I started slow with what I was capable of and built on from that. This wasn’t a case of day 1 and I’m already squatting the weight of a small women kind of thing, no – I started by walking 20 minutes a day.

Today I have one rule: Never ever stop exercising, get to gym at least 5/6 times per week. Have you ever not gone to the gym for one or two weeks and then gone back and felt super sluggish, as if all your fitness walked straight out of the door in that little off period? Yeah, me too and that’s the reason for this rule. It is so hard to get back into it when you stop. This rule helps me cut that problem out of the equation. Obviously if I’m sick or injured this rule needs to take a break.

No, transformations aren’t easy and that’s why only a handful of people succeed with them. Hard work isn’t fun and yes it doesn’t taste as good as a pizza, but do you know what’s the greatest thing I have ever tasted? Success. Success is the tastiest snack you’ll ever set your lips on, but there’s only one way you can ever experience that, and that’s to put in the hard yards, even when it doesn’t look as appetizing. Work when it’s not convenient, work when you don’t feel like it and work when everyone else is taking a break, that’s how you succeed.

Motivation is great, but it’s not reliable. Motivation flakes on you when you need it most, and so me and motivation broke up ages ago, I tolerate her from time to time, but I don’t depend on her when I need to get from point A to point B. This is why the achievement of any goal takes focus, consistent focus from you, despite what’s going on around you.


Everything won't go as planned, nowhere here have I written anything about being perfect. It's okay to mess up. In fact, I guarantee, you are going to mess up repeatedly, it’s an opportunity to learn, to learn where you went wrong and how you can do better next time.

So my take away from this is, stop looking at Tina’s success, make your own and outshine her. Work so hard that you are completely obsessed with your masterpiece, so that you feel no need to yearn for anything but what you already have. Have faith in yourself because you really have no cooking clue what you’re actually capable of. If only you stop with the I can’ts, and rather just start doing. Turn your thoughts into things and let your desires become actualizations. Stop blaming people for what you have not earned. You can do it if you set your mind to it.

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